December 21, 2015

  • Should I be scared--(part 2)

    Should I be scared, (part 2)

    On Saturday, the 5th of December, the Unitarian Church in Quincy hosted  an event for the public, titled Islam. We were three speakers. I was given the topic about how media misrepresents the true religion. Before the meeting started, I thought I would go over to our Islamic Center and get a few pamphlets and take them with me to the church in case any body was interested in reading about the real religion. I am always trying to educate the public! ;)

    As I drove up, I noticed that our sign to the center was missing. It was put in by the city when we had bought that building; and while the metal post was standing, the sign itself was gone. That scared me, and I drove into the parking lot, hoping that I would find the sign somewhere. But I didn’t find it. After getting the pamphlets from inside the mosque I returned to the Unitarian church. There was a lot of TV coverage, along with reporters from the local news paper, and while talking to them I said that our sign from the mosque was stolen. That became the headline news that evening. Meanwhile I called the Quincy Police Department and told them that while there was no vandalism as such, our sign was removed (stolen). An officer came home and took the report.

    I should let my readers know that the FBI has been extremely helpful to us with regards to the building of the mosque, and sometimes they ask if they  can come and sit at our gathering on Fridays, and have always told us that if ever there was any vandalism, I should let them know. Therefore, I sent an email to our local agent a few days later about the missing sign. That same week, a couple of days after I had sent him the mail, I received an email from the agent, —“the QPD has informed me that they have found the person(s) who have stolen the sign. You will be contacted within 24 hours.”

    My jaw dropped. Honestly, I never thought that we would get the sign back at all. Meanwhile I had an interview on the CBS affiliate radio station about Islam and terrorism and what was real and what was media related fear and hatred. I had been so busy with all these various programs  that I did not mention about the mail from FBI to anyone, not even my husband. The following day after that interview, I received a call from a detective from the police department. He said that he had found the culprits. They were five students, seniors and a junior from the local Catholic High school. They had confessed to the vandalism. Their parents were told about the misdemeanor, and had to come to the station. The officer told me that the parents were extremely angry with the boys, and told them that they had to pay for the new sign which I had already installed, and do other chores for the mosque. I told the officer that I didn’t want anything like that. I just wanted peace in this community, and didn’t want the young men to have their names in the police report or in the newspaper for something like that. I didn’t want them ostracized by their friends or neighbors.

    The following day, the athletic director of the school called me. He told me that he had suspended the students from taking part in the sports. He said that the boys and the parents wanted to meet with me to apologize personally. I didn’t want them to do that. I asked that they can just write a letter and I would read it to the congregation on Friday. He insisted that I come to the school and meet with them.

    So, this past Friday, I went there with my son and met with those students and their parents. The parents were in tears at what the sons had done, and the boys were so ashamed that they couldn’t meet my eyes. While I had options, I knew how much the parents were hurting, and how sorry the ‘stupid’ kids were feeling for doing what they did. The principal of the school was there and asked that I say something. This is what I told them.

    ‘I am not here to advise you. I don’t do advise. I just want you to know that we are a very small Muslim community in one of the finest towns in America. I want to live with peace in my heart, and I hope you all can find peace in yours. I applaud your parents for being here. Ten years from now, you may be teachers, or police officers, or doctors and work alongside Muslims. You have to be righteous. The best person is one who is righteous, and the one who is most righteous, is the one who is most honorable. Period. That’s all I want to say to you. Make your parents proud of you, and let them smile.”

    It was an emotional setting, to say the least. The parents were hugging me and the mothers and fathers were sobbing. I needed to get out of that place before I broke down and bawled along with them. So I said my good bye and as I was leaving, a father held my hand and said, “this was such a lesson in kindness.”

    That touched my heart strings. And now you know the rest of the story!

Comments (18)

  • Ah! AH! You have done more to bring peace and reconciliation to the community, the parents and the boys involved than any politician could have ever done. This is the kind of heart you have - it is larger than yourself!! Your words will ring in their ears for the rest of their lives and it WILL guide them in righteousness!! Well done! Hugs!

    • awww! how sweet you are Val. Such kind words! Thank you. I hope and pray that the young kids will learn the difference between right and wrong, and I pray that they are guided well. Your words have overwhelmed me. I am speechless. Thank you.

  • They gave you a perfect response, didn't they. When I said most Americans reject Trump's brand of hatred, I never expected to be proved right so quickly.

    • :) Thank you for your sage words John. I wish you and yours a merry Christmas and a happy and healthy New Year.

  • That is a happy ending for sure. Meeting hatred with love is the right thing to do.

  • We all have to try and fight hatred. You are sure doing your part.

  • I am relieved that this situation met with a proper ending, though certainly the pained those youngsters caused will hurt fro some time. I am glad you and your family are safe. Quincy is indeed a wonderful town.

  • Bless you!!!

  • Dear Friend;
    I have been thinking of you so much lately and hoping you and your family are all safe and not being hurt in any way. I asked Valerie since I'm no longer posting on Xanga. I just recently learned I can still access Xanga to read and comment so have been catching up. You were the perfect person to represent your faith community in this! We really need to educate people and socialize and get to know one another better and develop friendships. Love is always stronger than hate...and you and your actions proved that! My love and prayers to you and your Muslim community too.

    • Thank you dear Joyce for a profound and compassionate comment. Your words are wise and they represent the educated individuals. All is well with us. Every day is a day of thanksgiving. Merry Christmas and a very happy and healthy New Year to you. Hope you like your new surroundings a lot.

  • There is so much confusion because of prejudices that people want to believe. Maybe it's fear that turned to anger? Blessings to you and to a peace that the world can never give us. Christianity gets misreported a lot too. :(

    • It is the ignorance on the part of the Muslims and non Muslims alike that causes fear and anger that ends up in hate and crimes.

  • I have been out of xanga for a long time and now I am catching up. I am sorry to hear what happened. You addressed the problem with grace and compassion. You did educate them to respect and understanding. You are a great human being, Zakiah. Many blessings to you and your family. And I wish you a great 2016.

    • Thank you Floriana. I hope this will be a wonderfully exciting year for you also. Thank you for your kind words.
      You haven't told us about your life in Oregon, and how you are faring with the residency/Fellowship program. I hope things are easing up for you. Please keep me updated.

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